There are millions of women out there whom wants a very nice and possibly, a miraculous, and energetic guy just like you, me or someone else.While some thinks you are good to go, and some thinks you are too small in heart, mind, or even physical appearance. Hold on, muscular guys are wanted and loved by many cougars, but you can also be a non-muscular guy and still complete that task that muscular guy can complete, do be a perfect replica of that muscular guy, everything here is based on this small word Latin phrase "modus operandi".
Ok, here we go. You can be a good cub, viz.
1). Show respect always.
The best way to show her respect is to ask few questions, don't observe always, don't spy on her (NEVER). It is unfortunate that most of us, ask too many questions to the extent that we ask things that we are not supposed to ask or exits. Such things we are not supposed to ask or know is about her past lover or life. If we think it is vital that we know, of course it is vital. We should only want to know if she is divorced, or a widow (of course you don't get close to a married woman, nature will punish you for that). If she is a divorced or a widow, go very slow to ask what the cause of the event was, after that put a bold full-stop that part of the discovery, and close the chapter. Don't book-mark it.
2). Prove your love often.
The prove of love is not just sex, it is all about sex. Please understand. Ok, let me put it this way, the prove of your love is not "SEX", it is all about "SEXUALITIES AND THE UNDERSTANDING FOR HER FEELINGS" full-stop. I personally, can prove my love thus, cuddling, kissing, pegging, buying flowers, sending love cards and SMS; I mean, I really want to hold her most of the times, let me feel the warmness of her heart for me, as it runs through her veins, I want to feel her heart burn for me. Okay, enough of that. I sound like kid right :). But sincerely it is true, it is not just sexing all the time. Hey dude, stop talking, if it is sexing all the time then you must be a very lanky guy as you are sited on that piece of wood.
Well, well, well,lets talk about sex then. Your cougar is not with you because you think she needs you most, or because she thinks there is no other you. She is absolutely with you because you caught her eyes, and in that sense of feelings, you can be what she is thinking. Trying to find out what she wants in bed and provide it, in other words do it. If she wants a it to be gigantic, and its not, make her feel it to be gigantic the way you accelerate and change your gears, try to do the drifting thing, those whom drive know what I am talking ;).
If she can't feel you, then you are on the loosing edge.
Wait, do you know how to eat, not your food lol. Some kinda licking, biting, sucking (this is the regular sucking) and suckling (this is sucking and pulling with the lips). Wow, am not teaching, just talking. Am I talking? Nope, just blogging.
3). Don't under-estimate her.
"She's old, not trendy. So she won't perceive that I am snicking". Just be quiet and think, who told you she'e not going to know? She is a lady/woman, she can tell if something is wrong, just like your mum can. What ever you will do, be open to her and also considerate. Don't look down on her, don't lie to her. Oh Gosh, I hate liars, seriously. Don't do things that her back. Maybe am now sounding like Moses, when he was giving the 10 commandments.
4). Listen to her while she talks, and try to understand her.
listening is a very pleasurable thing to do, it arouses your love for her. Don't just listen while she talks like you are listening to music, listen to her like your guardian angel is talking, don't miss any line. "What! Are we tape recorders?", unfortunately, we are in this one. Because one of those sweet days will come when you will make sweet quotes of her words, of cause that will stir up sweet moments.
And hey, don't be quiet like a dude and listen to her while she talks trash. Trash like the sweet moments of her past relationship(s), or about the guy she saw or met somewhere else, or asking you about your male friends in a manner, or talk you down. Just ask her to stop that you are not feeling comfortable with it. If she refuses, just walk away.
5). Try to relay your idea of love and care to her.
Love can be relayed to her in some of the ways I just enlisted in point number two (2). Try to show here more love on the street and in public places, she's not going to feel shy, but if she does then reduce it. Are you going to feel shy? Hahahaha....did I hear you say yes? Ow ok, you where just coughing.
6). Respect her friends, and family.
Her family is what piss me off, seriously. I told her about it, and she never bring me close to her family members again. Most of you will know what I am talking about.
I am very much okay with her friends that have the same cougar concept as she does, because those that don't have such concept, will want to piss you off. They might do this with their unnecessary and unreasonable questions like, "Why are you interested in Jan?", for instance. You have the answer but you can't release it. Because that question is not the actual question, the actual question is, "Why are you not interested about girls?". I really stay at arms-length from those sort of friends, when an pressed, I just give out the answer not minding with actual question was. I can't tell you the answer, you know what the answer should be, I mean, you know why you love her that much.
7). Don't talk about her with your male friends, you can do that with your female friends.
Most friends are back-stabbers, some are wolves in sheep clothings, while some are just as pure as a friend. But how should you know really, which is which? When my male friends ask me anything about her, I just pretend I didn't hear, if it is asked again, I change the topic. If he press on again, I will tell him, "I wonder why you are asking". If he said cause he is a friend, I will just tell him, "Sorry, she is so peculiar to me, that I can't shear anything about her with you".
If your female friends want to know, tell them what you know won't hurt you, even if it gets to some other person. Therefore mind what you tell them. You may also ask for their advices, when given think about it before implementing. For some of them might be wanting you, while some just want to put asunder.
8). Dress to fit and respect the occasion.
The first time I started dating, I would go to church service with her with a pair of jeans and a polo or a shirt. And I would also go to have a drink with her with a pair of trousers, a shirt and a tie. I was all wrong. You should attend all church services with a pair of trousers and a tie, possibly suit-up. Have a drink with her on jeans and a polo shirt.
The occasions which we knot ties and suit-up are on official occasions like going to her office (I forbid that, I don't do that), award night, cocktail night, bday of popular or prominent people, naming ceremonies, political occasions (I can't find my arse there) and other of such gathering. You are expected to put on sport wares when going for a walk, jogging, sporting and such activities (My best sport brand is NIKE, and Manchester United).
9). Let her know if you are not okay with her dress or dress codes.
It is simple, "Sweetheart, I don't think this dress fits you", or "I don't recommend this cloth, it looks childish". Say something, don't just stand stare.
10). Always put your vioce down when talking to her in the mist of arguments, quarrel, misunderstanding, etc.
Try avoid these things as much as possible, if it is becoming alarming walk out of the room, I just said ROOM not house. Yes, she or her friends will think that you are weak, let them think. That is the best way to calm your anger not to say trash. Because you and I know as much as they know, only the wrong things that you said will be recorded and properly understood and interpreted :). When those things happen just don't see it that way, see it like you are trying to make a point, then it will go badly and end happily, that for it going badly and ending catastrophically.
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